Editing Social skills (section)

==Enumeration and categorization==
Social skills are the tools that enable people to communicate, learn, ask for help, get needs met in appropriate ways, get along with others, make friends, develop healthy relationships, protect themselves, and in general, be able to interact with the society harmoniously.<ref>{{cite book|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=FTpYF4okJbAC|title=Teaching Social Skills to Youth: A Step-by-step Guide to 182 Basic to Complex Skills Plus Helpful Teaching Techniques|first1=Tom P.|last1=Dowd|first2=Jeff|last2=Tierney|date=8 October 2017|publisher=Boys Town Press|via=Google Books|isbn=9781889322698}}</ref> Social skills build essential character traits like trustworthiness, respectfulness, responsibility, fairness, caring, and citizenship. These traits help build an internal moral compass, allowing individuals to make good choices in thinking and behavior, resulting in social competence.
[[Image:Ashs-teacher-and-students.jpg|thumb|300px| Students working with a teacher at Albany Senior High School, New Zealand]]

The important social skills identified by the [[Employment and Training Administration]] are:{{citation needed|date=June 2016}}
* Coordination – Adjusting actions in relation to others' actions.
* Mentoring – Teaching and helping others learn how to do something (e.g. being a study partner).
* Negotiation – Discussion aimed at reaching an agreement. 
* Persuasion – The action or fact of persuading someone or of being persuaded to do or believe something. 
* Service orientation – Actively looking for ways to evolve compassionately and grow psycho-socially with people.
* Social perceptiveness – Being aware of others' reactions and able to respond in an understanding manner.

Social skills are goal oriented with both main goals and sub-goals.<ref>{{Cite web|url=http://www.popstoolkit.com/riskmanagement/module/step2/goalsetting.aspx|title=Goal Setting - Persistent Organic Pollutants (POPs) Toolkit|website=www.popstoolkit.com|access-date=2017-10-08}}</ref>{{Better source needed|reason=The current source is insufficiently reliable ([[WP:NOTRS]]).|date=December 2023}} For example, a workplace interaction initiated by a new employee with a senior employee will first contain a main goal. This will be to gather information, and then the sub-goal will be to establish a [[rapport]] in order to obtain the main goal.<ref>{{Cite web|url=http://www.popstoolkit.com/riskmanagement/module/step2/subgoals.aspx|title=Sub-goals - Persistent Organic Pollutants (POPs) Toolkit|access-date=2017-10-08}}</ref> Takeo Doi in his study of consciousness distinguished this as ''tatemae'', meaning conventions and verbal expressions and ''honne'', meaning true motive behind the conventions.<ref>{{cite book|author=Takeo Doi|title=The Anatomy of Self: The Individual Versus Society|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=thrgxooX93oC|year=2001|publisher=Kodansha International|isbn=978-4-7700-2779-5}}</ref>