Editing Contempt (section)

===Marriage===
Research demonstrates how [[childhood abuse]] ties into maladaptive [[Interpersonal communication|communication]] dynamics consisting of contempt-laden conflict and [[emotional withdrawal]]. These findings are important because maladaptive marital communication may be one mechanism by which traumatic childhood experiences translate into poor adult relationship quality. Forms of verbal aggression, such as contempt, belligerence, and defensiveness, are associated with destructive, hostile patterns of conflict resolution ([Gottman et al., 1998] and [Straus, 1979]). Couples who use such communication styles are more likely to have higher levels of marital distress (Roberts, 2000), lower levels of marital satisfaction (Holman and Jarvis, 2003), and lower levels of marital stability ([Gottman et al., 1998], [Holman and Jarvis, 2003] and [DeMaris, 2000]).<ref>{{Cite journal | doi = 10.1016/j.ssresearch.2010.05.003| title = Fiery wives and icy husbands: Pre-marital counseling and covenant marriage as buffers against effects of childhood abuse on gendered marital communication?| year = 2010| last1 = Krivickas | first1 = K. M. | last2 = Sanchez | first2 = L. A. | last3 = Kenney | first3 = C. T. | last4 = Wright | first4 = J. D. | journal = Social Science Research| volume = 39| issue = 5| pages = 700}}</ref>

Gottman (1999) identified several behaviors that are particularly indicative of distress in relationships. One series of behaviors, which he termed the "four horsemen", includes a cascading of responses such as expressing criticism, defensiveness, contempt, [[sarcasm]], [[hostility]], and withdrawal, the combination of which indicates a critical state of marriage dissolution.<ref name="Cornelius, T. 2010">{{Cite journal | doi = 10.1007/s10896-010-9305-9| title = Self-Reported Communication Variables and Dating Violence: Using Gottman's Marital Communication Conceptualization| year = 2010| last1 = Cornelius | first1 = T. L. | last2 = Shorey | first2 = R. C. | last3 = Beebe | first3 = S. M. | journal = Journal of Family Violence| volume = 25| issue = 4| pages = 439| s2cid = 45452691}}</ref>

Carstensen, Gottman, and Levenson (1995) found that "[[Negative emotion]]al behavior, such as expressed anger, sadness, contempt, and other negative emotions, appears to be the best discriminator between satisfied and dissatisfied marriages". Carstensen, Gottman, and Levenson (1995) also discovered that "In terms of speaker behaviors, wives were coded as showing more total emotion, negative emotion, anger, joy, contempt, whining, and sadness." This supports the stereotype that women express more emotion than men both in general and in relationships. It also supports the idea that men are less expressive than women and tend to be more defensive minded in conversations.<ref>{{Cite journal | doi = 10.1037/0882-7974.10.1.140| title = Emotional behavior in long-term marriage| year = 1995| last1 = Carstensen | first1 = L. L. | last2 = Gottman | first2 = J. M. | last3 = Levenson | first3 = R. W. | journal = Psychology and Aging| volume = 10| issue = 1| pages = 140–149| pmid = 7779311}}</ref>

Six short self-report measures were used to assess several component communication skills (Gottman 1999). Specifically, the questionnaires assessed Repair Attempts, Accepting Influence, Harsh Start-Up, Flooding, Gridlock, and the Four Horsemen. These six measures were chosen because they were of theoretical and clinical interest to the authors, incorporated both adaptive and maladaptive communication behaviors, and included those aspects of couple communication considered by many to be most toxic, including withdrawal and contempt (Gottman 1999; Gottman et al. 1998; Johnson 2003).<ref name="Cornelius, T. 2010"/> Finally, the Four Horsemen create a cascading sequence of responses in which one partner expresses criticism and the other partner responds with defensiveness, causing the first partner to react to the defensiveness with contempt, sarcasm, and/or hostility with their partner, eventually withdrawing from, or stonewalling, the conversation. This cascading negative sequence which occurs as a repetitive, interlocking pattern is believed to signify a critical end-stage process of relationship dissolution, representing a final common causal pathway to relationship dissolution (see Gottman 1994).<ref name="Cornelius, T. 2010"/>

In the book ''Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking'', author [[Malcolm Gladwell]] discusses John Gottman's theories of how to predict which couples will stay married. Gottman's theory states that there are four major emotional reactions that are destructive to a marriage: defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt. Among these four, Gottman considers contempt the most destructive of them all.<ref name="Gladwell" /> For all other forms of aggression the Four Horsemen emerged as significant predictors of classification, which is expected given that this construct includes very negative, contemptuous behaviors. This is consistent with marital research, which contends that these communication behaviors are highly toxic, and erode relationship satisfaction (Cornelius et al. 2007; Gottman 1999).<ref name="Cornelius, T. 2010"/><ref name="Gladwell">{{cite book
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