Editing Coping (section)

===Object relations===
[[Emotional intelligence]] has stressed the importance of "the capacity to soothe oneself, to shake off rampant anxiety, gloom, or irritability....People who are poor in this ability are constantly battling feelings of distress, while those who excel in it can bounce back far more quickly from life's setbacks and upsets".<ref>{{cite book |first1=Daniel |last1=Goleman |title=Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ |year=1996 |isbn=978-0-7475-2830-2 |page=43 |publisher=Bloomsbury |url=https://archive.org/details/emotionalintell000gole }}</ref> From this perspective, "the art of soothing ourselves is a fundamental [[life skill]]; some psychoanalytic thinkers, such as [[John Bowlby]] and [[D. W. Winnicott]] see this as the most essential of all psychic tools."<ref>{{cite book |first1=Daniel |last1=Goleman |title=Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ |year=1996 |isbn=978-0-7475-2830-2 |page=57 |publisher=Bloomsbury |url=https://archive.org/details/emotionalintell000gole }}</ref>

[[Object relations theory]] has examined the childhood development both of "independent coping...capacity for self-soothing", and of "aided coping. Emotion-focused coping in infancy is often accomplished through the assistance of an adult."<ref>{{cite book |editor1-first=E. Mark |editor1-last=Cummings |editor2-first=Anita L. |editor2-last=Greene |editor3-first=Katherine H. |editor3-last=Karraker |title=Life-span Developmental Psychology: Perspectives on Stress and Coping |year=1991 |isbn=978-0-8058-0371-6 |pages=93–94|publisher=L. Erlbaum Associates }}</ref>