Editing Double bind (section)

===Example===
The classic example given of a negative double bind is of a parent telling their child they love them, while at the same time turning away in disgust, or inflicting [[corporal punishment]] as discipline:<ref>Koopmans, Mathijs. [http://www.goertzel.org/dynapsyc/1997/Koopmans.html] ''Schizophrenia and the Family: Double Bind Theory Revisited'' 1997.</ref> the words are socially acceptable; the body language is in conflict with it. The child does not know how to respond to the conflict between the words and the body language and, because the child is dependent on the parent for basic needs, they are in a quandary. Small children have difficulty articulating contradictions verbally and can neither ignore them nor leave the relationship.

An additional example of an oppressive double bind situation is the present realities of transgender female in society. Trans women face the challenge of being considered feminine due to their transition, leading them to often present themselves in "overtly 'feminine-coded'" ways. The result of this can be the implication of the stereotype that trans women are "artificial" and their attempts at conforming could be seen as them "trying too hard." On the other hand, if a trans woman does not choose the extremely feminine presentation, then they'll be judged for not looking how a woman "should" look. In this example, the intersection of the societal expectations of women meet the expectations of transgender woman. Women in society already face beauty ideals that imply a specific type of presentation is feminine and attractive. When you add in the element of a woman also being transgender, then they also face transphobic assumptions that a "feminine" presentation requires specific biological features.

This situation is ultimately more complicated than a typical choice situation that requires conforming or resisting because the simple presence of a trans woman in society is a rejection societal norms. The resistance to norms appears in the sense that society often robs a transgender woman of "womanhood" so identity is combating societal structure in this case. Nonetheless, anything a trans woman does could also be a form conforming to the norms - presenting in a feminine manner, wearing makeup, dressing in a specific way, etc. This example depicts the event of multiple intersecting oppressive norms at play.<ref>{{Cite journal |last=Hirji |first=Sukaina |title=Oppressive Double Binds |url=https://philpapers.org/archive/HIRODB-2.pdf |journal=PhilPapers}}</ref>