Editing Grief (section)

== Reactions ==
[[File:Evstafiev-bosnia-sarajevo-funeral-reaction.jpg|thumb|A family mourns during a funeral at the Lion's cemetery during the [[Siege of Sarajevo]] in 1992.]] [[Crying]] is a normal and natural part of grieving. It has also been found, however, that crying and talking about the loss is not the only healthy response and, if forced or excessive, can be harmful.<ref name="americanPsychologistpdf">{{cite journal |doi=10.1037/0003-066X.59.1.20 |title=Loss, Trauma, and Human Resilience: Have We Underestimated the Human Capacity to Thrive After Extremely Aversive Events? |year=2004 |last1=Bonanno |first1=George A. |journal=American Psychologist |volume=59 |pages=20–28 |pmid=14736317 |issue=1|s2cid=6296189 |url=http://rcin.org.pl/Content/60213 }}</ref><ref name="Time_NWTAG">{{Cite magazine |last=Konigsberg |first=Ruth Davis |date=29 January 2011 |url=http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2042372,00.html |title=New Ways to Think About Grief |magazine=[[Time (magazine)|Time]]}}</ref> Responses or actions in the affected person, called "coping ugly" by researcher [[George Bonanno]], may seem counter-intuitive or even appear dysfunctional, e.g., celebratory responses, laughter, or [[self-serving bias]] in interpreting events.<ref name="SA_NTG">{{cite journal|title=The Neuroscience of True Grit|journal=Scientific American|volume=304|issue=3|pages=28–33|doi=10.1038/scientificamerican0311-28|pmid=21438486|year=2011|last1=Stix|first1=Gary|bibcode=2011SciAm.304c..28S}}</ref> Lack of crying is also a natural, healthy reaction, potentially protective of the individual, and may also be seen as a sign of resilience.<ref name="americanPsychologistpdf"/><ref name="Time_NWTAG"/><ref name="nytimes1">{{cite news|url=https://www.nytimes.com/2011/04/12/nyregion/12funerals.html|title=Dance, Laugh, Drink. Save the Date: It's a Ghanaian Funeral.|date=12 April 2011|work=[[The New York Times]]}}</ref>

Some healthy people who are grieving do not spontaneously talk about the loss. Pressing people to cry or retell the experience of a loss can be damaging.<ref name="Time_NWTAG"/> Genuine [[laughter]] is healthy.<ref name="americanPsychologistpdf"/><ref name="nytimes1"/> When a loved one dies, it is not unusual for the bereaved to report that they have "seen" or "heard" the person they have lost. Most people who have experienced this report feeling comforted. In a 2008 survey conducted by [[Amanda Barusch]], 27% of respondents who had lost a loved one reported having had this kind of "contact" experience.<ref>Barusch, A. (2008). ''Love Stories of Later Life''. Oxford University Press. pp. 166–68. {{ISBN|978-0-19-531404-5}}</ref>