Editing Nora Ephron (section)

== Personal life ==
Ephron was married three times. Her first marriage to writer [[Dan Greenburg]] ended in divorce after nine years.<ref name="timesneck"/> In 1976, she married journalist [[Carl Bernstein]] with whom she had two sons. In 1979, Ephron was pregnant with their second son when she discovered Bernstein's affair with their mutual friend,<ref name="cosmo1">{{cite news|title=For the truly vengeful, the pen (or word processor) is mightier than the sword|url=http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-18431145.html|archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20071005105605/http://www.highbeam.com/doc/1G1-18431145.html|url-status=dead|archive-date=October 5, 2007|work=Cosmopolitan|date=July 1, 1996|access-date=August 17, 2007}}</ref> British journalist [[Margaret Jay]], the daughter of former British prime minister [[James Callaghan]], who was at the time married to the British ambassador to the United States [[Peter Jay (diplomat)|Peter Jay]]. Ephron was inspired by the affair to write the novel ''[[Heartburn (novel)|Heartburn]]'' (1983),<ref name="bbcjay">{{cite news|title=Baroness Jay's political progress|url=http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/entertainment/tv_and_radio/1466811.stm|work=BBC News|date=July 31, 2001|access-date=August 16, 2007}}</ref> which was then made into a 1986 Mike Nichols [[Heartburn (film)|film]] starring [[Jack Nicholson]] and Meryl Streep. In the book, Ephron wrote of a fictional husband who was "capable of having sex with a Venetian blind".<ref name="timesneck"/> She also wrote that the character Thelma (based on Margaret Jay) looked like a giraffe with "big feet".<ref name="timesneck"/> Bernstein threatened to sue over the book and film but never did.<ref name="guardian2007"/>

Ephron was married for 25 years to screenwriter [[Nicholas Pileggi]] from 1987 until her death in 2012. The couple lived in the Hollywood Hills in Los Angeles and in New York City.<ref>{{Cite news |last=Adams |first=Tim |date=February 3, 2013 |title=Nicholas Pileggi: the mob, Nora Ephron's death and Vegas |url=https://www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2013/feb/03/nicholas-pileggi-vegas-nora-ephron |access-date=May 16, 2024 |work=The Observer |language=en-GB |issn=0029-7712}}</ref>

Ephron's friend [[Richard Cohen (columnist)|Richard Cohen]] said of her, "She was very Jewish, culturally and emotionally. She identified fully as a Jewish woman."<ref>{{cite news|last1=Glassman|first1=Thea|title=Richard Cohen and Nora Ephron: The Real-Life Harry and Sally|url=http://forward.com/schmooze/349712/richard-cohen-and-nora-ephron-the-real-life-harry-and-sally/|access-date=May 28, 2017|work=The Forward|publisher=The Forward Organization, Inc.|date=September 12, 2016}}</ref> However, Ephron was not religious. "You can never have too much butter – that is my belief. If I have a religion, that's it", she quipped in an NPR interview about her 2009 movie ''[[Julie & Julia]]''.<ref>{{cite web|url=https://www.npr.org/templates/transcript/transcript.php?storyId=111543710|title=Nora Ephron On Julie, Julia And Cooking Like A Child|date=August 7, 2009|work=NPR.org}}</ref>

Ephron's son, Jacob Bernstein, directed an HBO movie on her life titled ''[[Everything Is Copy]]''.<ref>{{cite news|url=http://www.3news.co.nz/Nora-Ephrons-son-to-make-documentary-about-her-life/tabid/418/articleID/293553/Default.aspx|work=3 News NZ|title=Nora Ephron's son to make documentary about her life|date=April 9, 2013|access-date=April 8, 2013|archive-url=https://archive.today/20130703162640/http://www.3news.co.nz/Nora-Ephrons-son-to-make-documentary-about-her-life/tabid/418/articleID/293553/Default.aspx|archive-date=July 3, 2013|url-status=dead}}</ref> As of 2021, he was a reporter for ''[[The New York Times]]''.<ref>{{Cite web|title=Jacob Bernstein|url=https://www.nytimes.com/by/jacob-bernstein|access-date=February 18, 2021|website=[[The New York Times]]|language=en}}</ref> Another son, Max, is a keyboard and guitar player.<ref>{{cite news |url=https://www.usatoday.com/story/entertainment/music/2024/03/22/eras-tour-cast-meet-taylor-swifts-dancers-singers-and-band-members/73020978007/ |title=The Eras Tour cast: Meet Taylor Swift's dancers, singers and band members |last=West |first=Bryan |author-link=Bryan West (journalist) |website=[[USA Today]] |date=March 22, 2024 |access-date=March 9, 2025}}</ref>

For many years, Ephron was one of the very few people who knew the identity of [[Deep Throat (Watergate)|Deep Throat]], the anonymous informer for articles written by her ex-husband Carl Bernstein and [[Bob Woodward]] uncovering the [[Watergate scandal]].<ref name="huffpo">{{cite news|title=Deep Throat and Me: Now It Can Be Told, and Not for the First Time Either|url=http://www.huffingtonpost.com/nora-ephron/deep-throat-and-me-now-it_b_1917.html|work=[[HuffPost]]|date=May 31, 2005|access-date=December 19, 2008|first=Nora|last=Ephron}}</ref> Ephron read in Woodward and Bernstein's book ''All the President's Men'' that in Bernstein's notes, he referred to Deep Throat as "MF";<ref name="huffpo"/> Bernstein said it stood for "My Friend", but Ephron correctly guessed it stood for [[Mark Felt]], the former associate director of the FBI.<ref name="huffpo"/>

After Ephron's marriage with Bernstein ended, Ephron revealed Deep Throat's identity to her son Jacob and anyone else who asked. She once said, "I would give speeches to 500 people and someone would say, 'Do you know who Deep Throat is?' And I would say, 'It's Mark Felt.'"<ref name="timesneck"/> Classmates of Jacob at the [[Dalton School]] and [[Vassar College]] recall him revealing to numerous people that Felt was Deep Throat. This revelation attracted little media attention despite Deep Throat's identity being publicly unknown. Ephron said, "No one, apart from my sons, believed me."<ref>{{cite news|url=https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/obituaries/culture-obituaries/film-obituaries/9358820/Nora-Ephron.html|location=London, UK|work=[[The Daily Telegraph]]|title=Nora Ephron|date=June 27, 2012}}</ref> Ephron was invited by [[Arianna Huffington]] to write about the experience in ''The Huffington Post'', for which Ephron was a regular blogger and part-time editor.<ref name="huffpo"/>