Editing Politeness

{{short description|Practical application of good manners or etiquette so as not to offend others}}
[[Image:Politeness - Punch cartoon - Project Gutenberg eText 16619.png|thumb|''True Politeness''. ''"Your eel, I think, Sir?"''
----Cartoon in [[Punch (magazine)|''Punch'' magazine]]: 28 July 1920]]

'''Politeness''' is the practical application of good manners or [[etiquette]] so as not to offend others and to put them at ease. It is a culturally defined phenomenon, and therefore what is considered polite in one [[culture]] can sometimes be quite [[rudeness|rude]] or simply eccentric in another [[cultural relativism|cultural context]].

While the goal of politeness is to refrain from behaving in an offensive way so as not to offend others, and to make all people feel relaxed and comfortable with one another, these culturally defined standards at times may be broken within the context of [[personal boundaries]] – this is known as ''positive politeness''.

==Types==
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Anthropologists [[Penelope Brown]] and [[Stephen C. Levinson|Stephen Levinson]] identified four kinds of politeness, deriving from [[Erving Goffman]]'s concept of [[Face (sociological concept)|face]]:
# '''Negative politeness''' is the act of making a request less infringing, such as "If you don't mind..." or "If it isn't too much trouble..."; respects a person's right to act freely. This is a variety of ''deference''. There is a greater use of indirect [[speech acts]]. It is also considered a part of being assertive.
#'''Non-assertive politeness''' is when a person refrains from making a comment or asserting their beliefs during a discussion so as to remain polite to others present. It is also when a person goes along with a decision made by someone else so as not to appear impolite, essentially following general social norms.
#'''Assertive politeness''' can be when a person offers their opinion in a positive and constructive way to be assistive and helpful during an interaction, or refrains from [[hypocrisy|purporting to agree with something they do not actually agree with]] in a way that does not offend others.
# '''Positive politeness''' seeks to establish a positive relationship between parties, and it respects a person's need to be liked and understood. This standard of politeness is determined by [[personal boundaries]], and often violates etiquette norms in letter. Direct speech acts, [[profanity|swearing]] and flouting [[Gricean maxim|Grice's maxims]] can be considered aspects of positive politeness because:
#* They show an awareness that the relationship is strong enough to cope with what would normally be considered impolite (in the popular understanding of the term);
#* They articulate an awareness of the other person's values, which fulfills the person's desire to be accepted.
#* They convey a natural, relaxed, casual setting.

Some cultures, groups, and individuals prefer some ideals of politeness over the other. In this way, politeness is culturally bound, and even within broader cultures, people may disagree.

==History==
[[Image:Spectator.jpg|thumb|''[[The Spectator (1711)|The Spectator]]'' fostered a culture of politeness among the middle-classes of early 18th century [[England]].]]

During the [[Enlightenment era]], a self-conscious process of the imposition of polite norms and behaviors became a symbol of being a genteel member of the [[upper class]]. Upwardly mobile [[middle class]] [[bourgeoisie]] increasingly tried to identify themselves with the elite through their adopted artistic preferences and their standards of behavior. They became preoccupied with precise rules of [[etiquette]], such as when to show [[emotion]], the art of elegant dress and graceful conversation and how to act courteously, especially with women. Influential in this new discourse was a series of essays on the nature of politeness in a commercial society, penned by the philosopher [[Anthony Ashley-Cooper, 3rd Earl of Shaftesbury|Lord Shaftesbury]] in the early 18th century.<ref>{{cite book|url=https://books.google.com/books?id=H6u6QyCKE5YC|url-access=limited|title=Shaftesbury and the Culture of Politeness: Moral Discourse and Cultural Politics in Early Eighteenth-Century England|first=Lawrence E.|last= Klein|author-link=Lawrence E. Klein|year=1994|publisher=Cambridge University Press|isbn=9780521418065}}</ref> Shaftesbury defined politeness as the art of being pleasing in company: "'Politeness' may be defined a dext'rous management of our words and actions, whereby we make other people have better opinion of us and themselves."<ref>{{cite journal |last1=Klein |first1=Lawrence |year=1984 |title=The Third Earl of Shaftesbury and the Progress of Politeness |journal=Eighteenth-Century Studies |volume=18 |issue=2 |pages=186–214 |doi=10.2307/2738536 |jstor=2738536}}</ref>

[[File:Joseph Highmore - A Club of Gentlemen - Google Art Project.jpg|right|thumb|Members of a [[Gentlemen's club]] had to conform to a socially acceptable standard of politeness. The painting, ''A Club of Gentlemen'' by [[Joseph Highmore]] {{circa}} 1730.]]
Periodicals, such as ''[[The Spectator (1711)|The Spectator]]'', founded as a daily publication by [[Joseph Addison]] and [[Richard Steele]] in 1711, gave regular advice to its readers on how to be a polite gentleman. Its stated goal was "to enliven morality with wit, and to temper wit with morality{{nbsp}}... to bring philosophy out of the closets and libraries, schools and colleges, to dwell in clubs and assemblies, at tea-tables and coffeehouses." It provided its readers with educated, topical talking points, and advice on how to carry on conversations and social interactions in a polite manner.<ref>{{cite web |url=http://www.information-britain.co.uk/famdates.php?id=888 |title=First Edition of The Spectator |website=Information Britain |date=2010-03-01 |access-date=2014-08-15 |archive-date=2023-03-17 |archive-url=https://web.archive.org/web/20230317164436/https://www.information-britain.co.uk/famdates.php?id=888 |url-status=live }}</ref>

The art of polite conversation and debate was particularly cultivated in the [[English coffeehouses in the seventeenth and eighteenth centuries|coffeehouses]] of the period. [[Conversation]] was supposed to conform to a particular manner, with the language of polite and civil conversation considered to be essential to the conduct of coffeehouse debate and conversation.<ref>{{cite journal |last1=Klein |first1=Lawrence E. |title=Coffeehouse Civility, 1660-1714: An Aspect of Post-Courtly Culture in England |journal=Huntington Library Quarterly |date=1996 |volume=59 |issue=1 |page=34 |doi=10.2307/3817904|jstor=3817904 }}</ref><ref>{{cite journal|title=Politeness and the Interpretation of the British Eighteenth Century|first=Lawrence E.|last=Klein|journal=[[The Historical Journal]]|volume=45|number=4|year=2002|pages=869–898|doi=10.1017/S0018246X02002716 |jstor=3133532 |s2cid=145752613 }}</ref> The concept of "[[civility]]" referred to a desired social interaction which valued sober and reasoned debate on matters of interest.<ref>{{cite book |last1=Cowan |first1=Brian William |title=The Social Life of Coffee: The Emergence of the British Coffeehouse |date=2005 |publisher=Yale University Press |location=New Haven |isbn=0-300-10666-1 |page=101}}</ref> Established rules and procedures for proper behavior, as well as conventions, were outlined by [[gentleman's club]]s, such as Harrington's Rota Club. Periodicals, including ''[[Tatler (1709)|The Tatler]]'' and ''[[The Spectator (1711)|The Spectator]]'', intended to infuse politeness into English coffeehouse conversation, as their explicit purpose lay in the reformation of English manners and morals.<ref>{{cite book |last1=Mackie |first1=Erin Skye |editor1-last=Mackie |editor1-first=Erin Skye |title=The Commerce of Everyday Life: Selections from ''The Tatler'' and ''The Spectator'' |date=1998 |publisher=Bedford/St. Martin's |location=Boston |isbn=0-312-16371-1 |page=1 |chapter=Introduction: Cultural and Historical Background |chapter-url=https://archive.org/details/commerceofeveryd0000unse/page/1/mode/1up |chapter-url-access=registration}}</ref>

==Techniques==
[[File:Southdown bus 199 (KUF 199F), 2009 Amberley Bus Day.jpg|thumb|A polite notice on the side of a bus that reads "please pay as you enter"]]
There is a variety of techniques one can use to seem polite. Some techniques include expressing uncertainty and ambiguity through [[Hedge (linguistics)|hedging]] and indirectness, polite lying or use of [[euphemism]]s (which make use of ambiguity as well as [[connotation]]). 

Additionally, one can use [[tag question]]s to direct statements, such as "You were at the store, weren't you?" There are three types of tags: modal tags, affective tags, and facilitative tags. Modal tags request information of which the speaker is uncertain: "You haven't been to the store yet, have you?" Affective tags indicate concern for the listener: "You haven't been here long, have you? Facilitative tags invite the addressee to comment on the request being made: "You can do that, can't you?" Finally, softeners reduce the force of what would be a brusque demand: "Hand me that thing, could you?"{{Cn|date=May 2024}}

Some studies<ref>{{multiref2
|1={{cite book|last=Lakoff|first=R.|year=1975|title=Language and Woman's Place|location=New York|publisher=Harper & Row}}
|2={{cite book|last=Beeching|first=K.|year=2002|title=Gender, Politeness and Pragmatic Particles in French|location=Amsterdam|publisher=John Benjamins Publishing Company}}
}}</ref> have shown that women are more likely to use politeness formulas than men, though the exact differences are not clear. Most current research has shown that gender differences in politeness use are complex,<ref>{{multiref2
|1={{cite book|last=Holmes|first=J.|year=1995|title=Women Men and Language|publisher=Longman}}
|2={{cite book|last=Mills|first=S.|title=Gender and Politeness|location=Cambridge|publisher=Cambridge University Press|year=2003}}
}}</ref> since there is a clear association between politeness norms and the stereotypical speech of middle class white women, at least in the UK and US. It is therefore unsurprising that women tend to be associated with politeness more and their linguistic behavior judged in relation to these politeness norms.

==Linguistic devices==
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Besides and additionally to the above, many languages have specific means to show politeness, deference, respect, or a recognition of the [[social status]] of the speaker and the hearer. There are two main ways in which a given language shows politeness: in its [[lexicon]] (for example, employing certain words in formal occasions, and colloquial forms in informal contexts), and in its [[morphology (linguistics)|morphology]] (for example, using special verb forms for polite discourse). The [[T–V distinction]] is a common example in Western languages, while some Asian languages extend this to [[pronoun avoidance|avoiding pronouns entirely]]. Some languages have complex politeness systems, such as [[Korean speech levels]] and [[honorific speech in Japanese]].

[[Japanese language|Japanese]] is perhaps the most widely known example of a language that encodes politeness at its core. Japanese has two main levels of politeness, one for intimate acquaintances, family, and friends, and one for other groups, and verb morphology reflects these levels. Besides that, some verbs have special hyper-polite [[suppletion|suppletive]] forms. This happens also with some nouns and interrogative pronouns. Japanese also employs different personal pronouns for each person according to gender, age, rank, degree of acquaintance, and other cultural factors.

==Criticism of Brown and Levinson's typology==
Brown and Levinson's theory of politeness has been criticised as not being universally valid, by linguists working with [[East Asian languages|East-Asian languages]], including Japanese. Matsumoto<ref>{{cite journal|last=Matsumoto|first=Y.|year=1988|title=Reexamination of the universality of Face: Politeness phenomena in Japanese|journal=Journal of Pragmatics|volume=12|issue=4 |pages=403–426|doi=10.1016/0378-2166(88)90003-3 }}</ref> and Ide<ref>{{cite journal|last=Ide|first=S.|year=1989|title=Formal forms and discernment: two neglected aspects of universals of linguistic politeness|journal=Multilingua|volume=8|number=2–3|pages=223–248|doi=10.1515/mult.1989.8.2-3.223 |s2cid=144575072 }}</ref> claim that Brown and Levinson assume the speaker's volitional use of language, which allows the speaker's creative use of [[Face (sociological concept)|face]]-maintaining strategies toward the addressee. In East Asian cultures like Japan, politeness is achieved not so much on the basis of volition as on discernment ({{transliteration|ja|wakimae}}, finding one's place), or prescribed [[social norms]]. {{transliteration|ja|Wakimae}} is oriented towards the need for acknowledgment of the positions or roles of all the participants as well as adherence to formality norms appropriate to the particular situation.

==See also==
* [[Confirmation bias]]
* [[Courtesy]]
* [[Formality]]
* [[Intercultural competence]]
* [[Polite fiction]]
* [[Politeness maxims]]
* [[Politeness theory]]
* [[Register (sociolinguistics)]]
* [[Respect]]
* [[Valediction]], expression used to say farewell

==References==
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==Further reading==
* {{cite book|last1=Brown|first1=P.|author-link2=Stephen C. Levinson|last2=Levinson|first2=S.|year=1987|title=Politeness: Some Universals in Language Usage|location=Cambridge|publisher=Cambridge University Press}}
* {{cite book|last=Holmes|first=J.|year=1995|title=Women Men and Politeness|location=London|publisher=Longman}}
* {{cite book|last=Axia|first=G.|year=1999|title=Elogio della cortesia|location=Bologna|publisher=Il Mulino|lang=it}}
* {{cite book|last=Spencer-Oatey|first=H.|year=2000|title=Culturally Speaking|publisher=Continuum}}
* {{cite book|last=Watts|first=R.J.|year=2003|title=Politeness|location=Cambridge|publisher=Cambridge University Press}}
* {{cite thesis|last=Moumni|first=Hassan|year=2005|title=Politeness in Parliamentary Discourse: A Comparative Pragmatic Study of British and Moroccan MPs' Speech Acts at Question Time|degree=Ph.D.|institution=Mohammed V University|location=Rabat, Morocco}}
* {{cite book|last1=Kadar|first1=D.|first2=M.|last2=Haugh|year=2013|title=Understanding Politeness|location=Cambridge|publisher=Cambridge University Press}}

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* [https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p004y29m Politeness], BBC Radio 4 discussion with Amanda Vickery, David Wootton & John Mullan (''In Our Time'', Sep. 30, 2004)

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