Warren Farrell
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Warren Thomas Farrell (born June 26, 1943)is an American political scientist, activist, and author of seven books on men's and women's issues. Farrell initially came to prominence in the 1970s as a supporter of second wave feminism but has since become a leading figure of the men's rights movement.<ref name="Ribeiro">Template:Cite journal</ref><ref name="Kyparissiadis2">Template:Cite journal</ref><ref>Template:Cite book</ref> He served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women (NOW). Farrell advocates for "a gender liberation movement", with "both sexes walking a mile in each other's moccasins".<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
Farrell's books cover history, law, sociology and politics (The Myth of Male Power);<ref name="Myth_9780425181447">Template:Cite book</ref> couples' communication (Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say,<ref name="Hear_9781876451318">Template:Cite book</ref> and Role Mate to Soul Mate);<ref>Template:Cite book</ref> economic and career issues (Why Men Earn More);<ref name="Earn_9780814472101">Template:Cite book</ref> child psychology and child custody (Father and Child Reunion);<ref name="Father_9781876451325">Template:Cite book</ref> and teenage to adult psychology and socialization (Why Men Are The Way They Are,<ref name="Dynamic_9780553176285">Template:Cite book</ref> The Liberated Man,<ref name="Liberated_9780425136805">Template:Cite book</ref> and The Boy Crisis).<ref>The Boy Crisis is scheduled for publication in January 2018 by BenBella press.</ref>
Early life and educationEdit
Farrell was born in 1943. He is the eldest of three children born to an accountant father and housewife mother.<ref name=nyt>Template:Cite news</ref> He grew up in New Jersey.<ref name=nyt /> Farrell graduated from Midland Park High School in New Jersey in 1961.<ref name="mphs" />
Farrell received a B.A. from Montclair State University in social sciences in 1965.<ref name=la2003 /> As a college student, Farrell was a national vice-president of the Student-National Education Association, leading President Lyndon B. Johnson to invite him to the White House Conference on Education.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref><ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
In 1966, he received an M.A. from the University of California, Los Angeles in political science<ref name=la2003 /> and in 1974 a Ph.D. in the same discipline from New York University.<ref name=la2003 /> He was an assistant to the president of New York University.<ref>Template:Cite book</ref>
University teachingEdit
Farrell has taught university level courses in five disciplines (psychology; women's studies; sociology; political science; gender and parenting issues). These were at the School of Medicine at the University of California, San Diego; the California School of Professional Psychology; in the Department of Women's Studies at San Diego State; at Brooklyn College; Georgetown University; American University, and Rutgers.<ref name="Father_9781876451325" />
Feminist foundationEdit
When the second wave of the women's movement evolved in the late 1960s, Farrell's support of it led the National Organization for Women's New York City chapter to ask him to form a men's group. The response to that group led to his ultimately forming some 300 additional men and women's groups and becoming the only man to be elected three times to the board of directors of the National Organization for Women in N.Y.C. (1971–74).<ref name="Liberated_9780425136805" /> In 1974, Farrell left N.O.W. in N.Y.C. and his teaching at Rutgers when his wife became a White House Fellow and he moved with her to D.C.<ref name="Liberated_9780425136805" /> They subsequently divorced.<ref name=latimes />
During his feminist period, Farrell wrote op-eds for The New York Times and appeared frequently on the Today show and The Phil Donahue Show, and was featured in People, Parade and the international media. This, and his women and men's groups, one of which had been joined by John Lennon, inspired The Liberated Man.<ref name="Liberated_9780425136805" /> The Liberated Man was written from a feminist perspective, introducing alternative family and work arrangements that could better accommodate working women and encourage care-giving men. The Liberated Man was the beginning of Farrell's development of parallels for men to the female experience: for example, to women's experience as "sex objects", Farrell labeled men's parallel experience as "success objects."<ref name="Liberated_9780425136805" />
As a speaker, Farrell was known for creating audience participation role-reversal experiences to get both sexes "to walk a mile in the other's moccasins." The most publicized were his "men's beauty contest" and "role-reversal date."<ref>Template:Cite news</ref> In the men's beauty contest, all the men are invited to experience "the beauty contest of everyday life that no woman can escape." In the "role-reversal date" every woman was encouraged to "risk a few of the 150 risks of rejection men typically experience between eye contact and intercourse."<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
Integrating men's issues into gender issuesEdit
In a 1997 interview, Farrell stated: "Everything went well until the mid-seventies when NOW came out against the presumption of joint custody. I couldn't believe the people I thought were pioneers in equality were saying that women should have the first option to have children or not to have children — that children should not have equal rights to their dad."<ref>J. Steven Svoboda (1997). "Interview with Warren Farrell" MenWeb.com, accessed November 28, 2012</ref>
Why Men Are the Way They AreEdit
Farrell's books each contain personal introductions that describe his perspective on how aspects of public consciousness and his own personal development led to the book. By the mid-1980s, Farrell was writing that both the role-reversal exercises and the women and men's groups allowed him to hear women's increasing anger toward men, and also learn about men's feelings of being misrepresented.<ref>Template:Citation</ref> He wrote Why Men Are The Way They Are<ref name="Dynamic_9780553176285" /> to answer women's questions about men in a way he hoped rang true for the men.
He distinguished between what he believed to be each sex's primary fantasies and primary needs, stating that "both sexes fell in love with members of the other sex who are the least capable of loving: women with men who are successful; men with women who are young and beautiful."<ref>Template:Citation</ref><ref name="MPHSspeech.pdf">Template:Cite book</ref> He said that women feel disappointed because, "the qualities it takes to be successful at work are often in tension with the qualities it takes to be successful in love." He also said that men feel disappointed because, "a young and beautiful woman ('genetic celebrity') often learns more about receiving, not giving, while older and less-attractive women often learn more about giving and doing for others, which is more compatible with love."<ref name="Dynamic_9780553176285" />
The Myth of Male PowerEdit
{{#invoke:Labelled list hatnote|labelledList|Main article|Main articles|Main page|Main pages}} In 1993, Farrell wrote The Myth of Male Power, in which he argued that the widespread perception of men having inordinate social and economic power is false, and that men are systematically disadvantaged in many ways. The book became a foundational text of the Men's Rights Movement, and made Farrell one of its leading figures.<ref name="Ribeiro 2021">Template:Cite conference</ref><ref>Template:Cite journal</ref><ref name="Kyparissiadis">Template:Cite journal</ref>
The Myth of Male Power was ardently challenged by some academic feministsTemplate:Who, whose critique is that men earn more money, and that money is power. Farrell concurs that men earn more money, and that money is one form of power. However, Farrell also adds that "men often feel obligated to earn money someone else spends while they die sooner—and feeling obligated is not power."<ref name="Myth_9780425181447" /> This perspective was to be more fully developed in Farrell's Why Men Earn More.<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" />
Susan Faludi argued that Farrell had effectively recanted his original position as part of a generalized backlash against feminism.<ref>Faludi, Susan (1991), "Warren Farrell: the liberated man recants", in Template:Cite book</ref>
Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say and Father and Child ReunionEdit
The increase in divorces in the 1980s and 1990s turned Farrell's writing toward two issues: the poverty of couples' communication<ref name="Hear_9781876451318" /> and children's loss of their father in child custody cases.<ref name="Father_9781876451325" />
In Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say,<ref name="Hear_9781876451318" /> Farrell asserts that couples often fail to use couples' communication outside of counseling if the person receiving criticism does not know how to make her or himself feel safe. Farrell develops a method called "Cinematic Immersion" to create that safety and overcome what he posits is humans' biological propensity to respond defensively to personal criticism.<ref name="Hear_9781876451318" /><ref>Template:Cite book</ref>
To address children's loss of their father in child custody cases, Farrell wrote Father and Child Reunion,<ref name="Father_9781876451325" /> a meta-analysis of research about what is the optimal family arrangement for children of divorce. Father and Child Reunion's findings include some 26 ways in which children of divorce do better when three conditions prevail: equally-shared parenting (or joint custody); close parental proximity; and no bad-mouthing.<ref name="Father_9781876451325" /> His research for Father and Child Reunion provided the basis for his frequently appearing in the first decade of the 21st Century as an expert witness in child custody cases on the balance between mothers' and fathers' rights needed to create the optimal family arrangement for children of divorce.Template:Cn
Why Men Earn MoreEdit
By the start of the 21st century, Farrell felt he had re-examined every substantial adult male–female issue except the pay gap (i.e., that men as a group tend to earn more money than women as a group).<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" /> In Why Men Earn More: The Startling Truth Behind the Pay Gap—and What Women Can Do About It,<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" /> he documents 25 differences in men and women's work-life choices which, he argues, account for most or all of the pay gap more accurately than did claims of widespread discrimination against women. Farrell writes that men chose to earn more money, while each of women's choices prioritized having a more balanced life. These 25 differences allowed Farrell to offer women 25 ways to higher pay—and accompany each with their possible trade-offs.<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" /> The trade-offs include working more hours and for more years; taking technical or more hazardous jobs; relocating overseas or traveling overnight.<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" /> This led to considerable praise for Why Men Earn More as a career book for women.<ref>Articles:
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Some of Farrell's findings in Why Men Earn More include his analysis of census bureau data that never-married women without children earn 13% more than their male counterparts, and that the gender pay gap is largely about married men with children who earn more due to their assuming more workplace obligations.
Themes woven throughout Why Men Earn More are the importance of assessing trade-offs; that "the road to high pay is a toll road;" the "Pay Paradox" (that "pay is about the power we forfeit to get the power of pay"); and, since men earn more, and women have more balanced lives, that men have more to learn from women than women do from men.<ref name="Earn_9780814472101" />
Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men?Edit
Farrell's 2008 book, Does Feminism Discriminate Against Men?,<ref name="Feminism_9780195312829">Template:Cite book</ref> is a debate book with feminist co-author James P. Sterba. Farrell felt gender studies in universities rarely incorporated the masculine gender except to demonize it. This book was Farrell's attempt to test whether a positive perspective about men would be allowed to be incorporated into universities' gender studies curriculum even if there were a feminist rebuttal.<ref name="Feminism_9780195312829" /> Farrell and Sterba debated 13 topics, from children's and fathers' rights, to the "Boy Crisis."
The Boy CrisisEdit
Farrell co-authored the 2018 book The Boy Crisis with John Gray,<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> identifying a global pattern in which boys are falling behind girls in several areas across more than 50 developed nations. The book discusses contributing factors such as educational underperformance, mental and physical health challenges, and lack of male role models, particularly in father-absent households. Farrell argues that "dad-deprivation" significantly impacts boys' outcomes and proposes a range of solutions including expanded vocational training, shared parenting post-divorce, and increased male teacher representation in early education. The book also includes chapters on non-pharmaceutical strategies for ADHD by John Gray.
Role Mate to Soul MateEdit
Farrell’s 2024 book, Role Mate to Soul Mate,<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> outlines seven communication practices based on his decades of experience teaching couples workshops. The book explores ways to transform relationship challenges into opportunities for intimacy, with practical strategies for navigating criticism, conflict, and emotional disconnection. It also extends these methods beyond romantic relationships to improve communication with family, coworkers, and across political divides.
Critical receptionEdit
Early critiques in the New York Times Book Review by Larry McMurtry and John Leonard included disdain for Farrell's use of gender-neutral language in The Liberated Man.<ref>Reviews:
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- Template:Cite news</ref> More recently, conservative and antifeminist Phyllis Schlafly labeled Farrell a "feminist apologist", though praises his research for Father and Child Reunion.<ref>Template:Cite book</ref> Kate Zernike of The Boston Globe refers to Farrell as "the sage of the men's movement",<ref>Template:Cite news</ref> and the description of him as the "Gloria Steinem of men's liberation"<ref>Kleiman, Carol. "400 men try to beat 'chauvinist pig' rap." The Montreal Gazette December 29, 1977, p.27. Print.</ref> by Carol Kleiman of the Chicago Tribune. Esquire ranked Farrell, Thomas Aquinas, and John Stuart Mill as three of history's leading male feminists.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
Farrell's collaborations with Ken Wilber,<ref>Template:Cite news</ref><ref>Template:Cite news</ref> John Gray,<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> and Richard Bolles<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> have introduced his messages to more diverse and receptive audiences.
Farrell's advocacy for boys and men's issues is often criticized in the media as making him 'a leading figure of the men's rights movement'; GQ calls Farrell "The Martin Luther King of the men's movement."<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref>
Personal lifeEdit
Farrell married Ursula ("Ursie"), a mathematician and IBM executive, in the 1960s. They separated in 1976 after ten years of marriage, and later divorced.<ref name=latimes>Template:Cite news</ref><ref>Other articles:
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- Template:Cite news</ref> After what Farrell described as "twenty years of adventuresome singlehood", he married Liz Dowling in August 2002.<ref name=mphs>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation
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Farrell backed Hillary Clinton in the 2016 US presidential election.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
Other activitiesEdit
During the 2003 California gubernatorial recall election, Farrell ran as a Democratic candidate,<ref name=la2003>Template:Cite news</ref> on a platform of fathers' rights,<ref>Template:Cite news</ref> and received 626 votes.<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> Farrell's current foci are conducting communication workshops,<ref name="warrenfarrell.com">{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> being an expert witness<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> in child custody cases<ref name="warrenfarrell.com" /> and researching a forthcoming book (working title The Boy Crisis), to be co-authored with John Gray. In 2010–11, he keynoted, along with Deepak Chopra, a world conference on spirituality (the Integral Spiritual Experience),<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> addressing the evolution of love. He was then invited by the Center for World Spirituality to be one of their world leaders.<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref> Farrell speaks frequently on boys, men's and gender issues, including doing a keynote in 2016 for UK Male Psychology Conference.<ref>{{#invoke:citation/CS1|citation |CitationClass=web }}</ref>
In 2009, a call from the White House requesting Farrell to be an advisor to the White House Council on Women and Girls led to Farrell creating and chairing a commission to create a White House Council on Boys and Men. The multi-partisan commission consists of thirty-five authors and practitioners (e.g., John Gray, Gov. Jennifer Granholm, Michael Gurian, Michael Thompson, Bill Pollack, Leonard Sax) of boys' and men's issues. They have completed a study that defines five components to a "boys' crisis," which was submitted as a proposal for President Obama to create a White House Council on Boys and Men.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref> In April 2015, the coalition went to Iowa to discuss their position with 2016 U.S. presidential candidates.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
Farrell appeared in Cassie Jaye's 2016 documentary film about the men's rights movement, The Red Pill.<ref>Template:Cite news</ref>
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